I recently coached a client whose goal is to meet her life partner and eventually get married and have a family. She was struggling with the dating scene and feels like she is getting nowhere.
As we continued our session about the issue, she realized -- much to her surprise -- that she had spent an awful lot of time and energy lumping all men into one category, making generalizations about them that were distorted.
"Well, men where I live are so non-committal," she said.
"I am very driven and that turns men away from me," she told me.
And these were just a few of the generalizations she was making.
After a few coaching sessions, she began to speak the truth to herself, to open her heart and make room for Mr. Right, expecting him come along at any time. She began to accept herself and understand that there are many men who would appreciate her qualities and want to share a life with her.
Are there places in your life where you are generalizing, distorting or deleting reality? Ask yourself:
Where did these ideas came from?
What is the evidence that they are true?
What if they are not true?
What would happen if I began to think otherwise?
You can live your best life. I know you can. And if you need a little help getting there, consider life coaching. I mean, who couldn't use a little encouragement and a good ear now and again?